Knowing you want some help is easy. At least eventually. But taking the first step to giving to yourself is super hard for some. There’s the sense of needing permission, or not deserving it. The money, the time. Isn’t it so self-indulgent? Does therapy even help!? I can handle it. I can get by. I don’t know where to start…
At this stage in my work as a therapist, I find myself more interested in a client’s coping mechanisms than in their past histories. Why? Because habitual responses—the ways we automatically react—are often the root of ongoing struggles. Imagine this: You’re driving a car, but you’re steering as if you’re on a road from your childhood rather than the one…
This blog explores why boundaries are essential for emotional health and how somatic therapy can help you rebuild them after trauma or burnout. Our planet thrives in an inhospitable vacuum. Despite being surrounded by radiation, emptiness, and cosmic debris, Earth maintains its protective atmosphere. It has boundaries. In many ways, Earth models what it means to be resilient. It holds…
Many clients arrive at therapy feeling lost, overwhelmed, or emotionally drained. Life may feel as though it’s moving sideways—like a crab—pointing one way but drifting another. Despite their best intentions, they can’t seem to reach the inner peace, clarity, or direction they long for. Why is that? Because we are not always consciously in charge of our lives—our nervous systems…
A broken arm is easy to understand. A cold. The flu. But something that is invisible and just as constraining is far harder to compute. It is therefore, in some ways, more scary or unwieldy. When we (or someone we know) loses the capacity to cope, it’s scary for everyone. The brain is a deeply partitioned thing. It hides us…
What do you ask a therapist you are thinking of working with? It’s hard to make a start. Perhaps you’ve had a long history of lukewarm help. There’s a lot of it about. Perhaps you’re daunted by the field, and all the varying styles and approaches available. Plus many of the roles are not protected. Anyone can call themselves a…
In some circles, healing is a dirty word. Perhaps because therapists worry about the establishment of expectations. Healing is perhaps implicit code for fix me! We all want our symptoms and suffering to go away, even though we also know that all of us must be visited by suffering. That’s life. What makes the brand of therapy I provide so…
One of the hardest things when you’re down or nervous, is maintaining boundaries. What does that mean? Staying authentic. Saying ‘No’. Saying ‘Can I think about it?’ It’s about knowing what you want and being able to claim it, even in the face of disagreement, or the jangly feelings that come with saying no to others. Boundaries are partly maintained…